Litsela Tse Folisang Mathata a Kamano ea Lenyalo li ka U Thusa ho Furalla
E se e le nako e telele e tsejoa hore banyalani ba babeli ba amehile ke ho lemala, esita le haeba motho a le mong feela a lemaletse. 'Me lipatlisiso li bontša hore tlhabollo ea banyalani e ka thusa ka tahi le mathata a likamano tse tsamaeang le eona.
Empa ka nako e 'ngoe molekane a le mong kapa bobeli ba babeli ba ferekanngoa kapa ba khopisitsoe ke maikutlo a hore ba lokela ho ba le keletso bakeng sa mathata a kamano, ba ikutloe ba keneletse sefefo, le hore moriana o lokela ho ba tlhokomelo ea tlhokomelo ea kalafo.
Mona ke litsela tse hlano tsa bohlokoa tseo tlhabollo bakeng sa mathata a kamano li ka fokolang tsela ea ho hlaphoheloa ho tsoa tekanyong, hammoho le kamano e molemo. Bakeng sa tlhahisoleseding e eketsehileng, nka Tlhaloso ena.
1 - Ho lemoha balekane ba hloka Tšehetso
E 'ngoe ea tse bohlokoa ka ho fetisisa ho tsebang taba ena ke mosebetsi o entsoeng ke Lois Wilson, mosali oa Bill Wilson, e mong oa baqapi ba Alcoholics Anonymous .
Lihlopha tsa lelapa la Al-Anon tse entsoeng ka tumellano ea Lois ka ho lemoha hore eena, hammoho le basali ba bang ba litlamorao tsa lino tse tahang, ba ne ba loana le bothata ba kamano le Bill, ka bobeli nakong ea tahi ea hae, le nakong ea lilemo tsa hae tsa ho hlaphoheloa. Hangata mathata a kamano ea botsoalle a sutumelloa ka thōko ha banyalani bana ba lebisa tlhokomelo feela ho lithethefatsi.
Le hoja lihlopha tsa tšehetso li ka thusa, ho fana ka keletso bakeng sa mathata a kamano ho thusa baratuoa hore ba senole mehloli e mecha ea ts'ehetso, mme likoetlano li kopanela ho ba le tšehetso e kholo.
2 - Ho nolofalletsa ts'oaetso ke bothata ba kamano
Le hoja ho lemalla ho lemala ho bonahala ho khannoa ke motho ea lemalang, hangata ke bothata ba kamano. Motho eo e seng molekane ea ka lemalloang a ka etsa hore ho lemalle ho lemalla, mme ha bolekane ba babeli ba lemalla, ho ka ba boima ho ba tlohela.
Ho itšoara ka mokhoa o lumellehang ke lintho tseo molekane oa hao a li etsang tse lumellang ho lemala ho tsoela pele, hangata ho se na moelelo, joalo ka ho koahela, ho hloekisa litšila, ho alima chelete le ho hlokomela boikarabelo ba mokuli.
Ho fana ka keletso bakeng sa mathata a kamano ho ka thusa balekane ba babeli hore ba tsebe mekhoa ena e matlafatsang 'me ba ka thusa bobeli balekane ho senya mekhoa ena ea ho nolofalletsa.
3 - Ho Thusa banyalani ho sebetsa ka mathata a maikutlo
Ho na le liketsahalo tse ngata tsa bophelo tse khathatsang maikutlong, tse ka fetisetsoang ke tahi. Litaba tse amang banyalani li kenyelletsa lefu la batsoali le baratuoa ba bang - e leng ho ka ba thata haholo haeba motho ea shoeleng a e-na le tahi kapa a hlekefetsoa.
Hape ho ima, ho lahleheloa ke bokhachane kapa ho ba batsoali, kaofela ha bona ho hloka phetoho e kholo ea maikutlo. Ha mathata a kamano a le teng pakeng tsa banyalani ba bang, meriana e ka 'na ea lebisa tlhokomelo ho boitšoaro bo sebetsang bo matlafatsang ho lemala,' me molekane a ka 'na a lebisa tlhokomelo ho ho lemalla ho ba bothata, ho e-na le ho amohela mathata a kamano eo.
Batho ba bangata ba nang le lithethefatsi ba e-na le mathata a bophelo ba kelello , 'me sena se eketsa khatello ea maikutlo. Keletso ea banyalani e ka thusa banyalani hore ba sebetsane ka mathata a bona a maikutlo a bakoang ke mathata a bona a kamano hammoho ka litsela tse nepahetseng, ho e-na le ho leka ho ba le molekane ea lemalang - hangata ba sa atlehe - ho sebelisa boitšoaro ba bona ba ho lemalla ho sebetsana ka katleho, ha molekane e mong a le mong 'me a sa tšehetsoe.
4 - Ho khetholla le ho rarolla mathata a bakoang ke lithethefatsi
Ho eletsa mathata a kamano ho ka thusa banyalani hore ba tsebe le ho rarolla mathata a amanang le tahi ka boeona.
Mathata a bakoang ke tahi a ka kenyeletsa mathata a molao, haholo-holo a bakoang ke lino tse tahang, lithethefatsi le tsa thobalano; mathata a lichelete, haholo-holo a bakoang ke lithethefatsi tse itseng, papali ea chelete le lithethefatsi tsa mabenkele; le mathata a bophelo bo botle, haholo-holo amanang le lijo, mathata a joala le lithethefatsi, le ho lemalla ho kopanela liphate haeba ho amana le ho pepesehela mafu a likobo.
Ha banyalani bao ba ka khomarela boteng ba hore ba na le bothata ba kamano, tlhabollo ea kamano e ka ba thusa ho lokisa mathata ao ba ratang ho tobana le 'ona.
5 - Ho lokisa le ho rarolla mathata a kamano
Mohlomong thuso e bohlokoa ka ho fetisisa eo banyalani ba fanang ka keletso bakeng sa mathata a kamano e ka fang banyalani ba anngoeng ke tahi e amana le ho lokisa kapa ho rarolla bothata ba kamano.
Le hoja ba ka 'na ba thatafalloa ke ho amohela le ho lumela ho mathata a kamano, pholiso e kholo ka ho fetisisa e ka tsoa ho banyalani ba sebetsang ka mathata a bona a kamano hammoho.
Sena se kenyelletsa ho shebana le mekhoa ea leshano le ho pata, ho amohela le ho phekola ho tsoa litabeng tsa hona joale kapa tse fetileng, ho batla le ho fana ka tšoarelo, le ho felisa mekhoa ea tlhekefetso .