Bothata ba ho phethahala bo ka fetoha kapa bo nkoa ke maladaptive
Ho se phethahale ke tšekamelo ea ho ipehela litekanyetso tse phahameng haholo bakeng sa hao le / kapa ba bang. Joaloka tšobotsi leha e le efe ea botho, ho ba le boikutlo bo phethahetseng ho akarelletsa litšobotsi tse ngata, tse ling tse ntle le tse ling tse mpe, tse fapaneng ho tloha ho motho ho ea ho motho. Re atisa ho ba le tšobotsi e mpe moetlong oa rona, empa lipatlisiso li bontšitse hore ho na le mekhoa e metle ea bophelo bo botle (mekhoa e metle) le mefuta e sa pheleng ( maladaptive ) ea phetheho.
E khotsofatsang kapa e phelisang hantle
Mofuta ona oa ho phethahala o khetholloa ka ho ba le litekanyetso tse phahameng bakeng sa hau le ba bang, ho phehella ha u thulana le mahlomola le ho ba hlokolosi. Bophelo bo botle ba phetheho hangata bo tsamaisana le boits'oaro-bo tsamaisoang le tsebo e ntle ea tlhophiso.
Ka mohlala, u ka 'na ua ipolela u le motho ea phethahetseng ha ho tluoa sekolong kapa mosebetsing hobane u lula u ikitlaelletsa ho etsa sohle se matleng a hao, fetola mosebetsi oa hau ka nako' me u kopane kapa u fete litlhoko. Leha ho le joalo, ha u halefe haholo haeba u sa finyelle sepheo sa hau. Ena ke mofuta o phetseng hantle oa phetheho hobane o tsepamisa mohopolo o motle mme o u susumelletsa ho etsa hantle. Batho ba bangata baatlelete le baetsi ba litsebi ba na le phetoho e tsitsitseng le kaha e amana feela le karolo e itseng ea bophelo ba bona, papali ea bona kapa litšoantšo tsa bona, e ba thusa ho feta tšimong ea bona.
Ho senya malapa kapa ho se phethahale ho se nang bophelo
Joalo le ntho leha e le efe, ho se phethahale ho ka ba kotsi haholo haeba ho nkoa e le ho feteletseng.
Maladaptive perfectionism e na le ho ameha haholo ka liphoso tse fetileng, tšabo ea ho etsa liphoso tse ncha, lipelaelo mabapi le hore na u ntse u etsa ntho e nepahetseng le ho ameha haholo ka litebello tse phahameng tsa ba bang, tse kang batsoali kapa bahiri. Ho ameha ka ho feteletseng ka taolo ke karolo e ikhethang ea maladaptive perfectionism.
Mofuta ona o ka ama karolo e 'ngoe le e' ngoe ea bophelo ba hau, eseng e le 'ngoe feela kapa tse peli. Ha e le hantle, ke phetheho e feteletseng hoo e laolang bophelo ba hau 'me e bakela ho tšoenyeha haholo le khatello ea maikutlo .
Ka mohlala, u ka 'na ua kula ho ea ka mpa pele ho tlhahlobo kapa tlhahiso hobane u tšaba hoo u ke keng ua phela ho ba bang' kapa litlhoko tsa hau. Mohlala o mong o lula o botsa ba bang hore ba kholisehe hore o etsa mosebetsi o motle le hore o ratoa le ho hlomphuoa. U ka sebelisa karolo e ntle ea matsatsi a hao a busoa ke tšabo kapa matšoenyeho ka lebaka la ho se kopane le litekanyetso tsa hau tse phahameng. Litsela tsena tsa ho sebetsana le tsona ha li kotsi hobane li tsepamisitse maikutlo linthong tse mpe, hammoho le lintho tseo hangata u ke keng ua li laola.
Ka kakaretso, le hoja phetoho e tsitsitseng e tloaelehile ho amahanngoa le boiketlo bo botle ba kelello le katleho e kholo sekolong le mosebetsing, maladaptive perfectionism e amahanngoa le mahlomola, ho itšepa ho tlaase, ho kula, ho se robale le matšoao a lefu la kelello.
Fumana Thuso Haeba Boleng ba Hao ba Bophelo bo le bokooa
Haeba botle ba hao bo phethahetseng bo bonahala bo ntse bo nka bophelo ba hao, e ka ba nako ea ho fumana thuso. Ho na le phekolo e kang ts'oaetso-phekolo ea boitšoaro e fumanehang ho u thusa ho phutholoha, tlohela 'me u khaotse ho lumella hore boemo ba hau bo phethahetseng bo laole bophelo ba hau.
U ka khona ho lemoha lisosa kapa lits'ebetso tsa ts'ebeliso ea hau ea phetheho e le hore e tla u thusa ho utloisisa kamoo u ka e tsamaisang ka katleho kateng.
Lisebelisoa
Ho tsitsa, PJ, Israel, AL, & Antony, M "Na phetheho e ntle, e mpe kapa ka bobeli? Ho hlahloba mefuta ea mekhoa ea ho phethahala ho theha " Boemo le Boikarabello ba Batho ka bomong 2004 36: 1373-1385.
http://www.adaa.org/sites/default/files/Antony_MasterClinician.pdf